The amount of times I’ve heard someone get asked “Well…have you tried online dating?” and the response be something along the lines of “oh GOD no” (as if it’s something to be embarrassed about) is honestly ridiculous. First of all… YOU’RE A LIAR. I truly don’t know any young single person who hasn’t dabbled in SOME form of online dating. Second of all… get over yourself! Online dating is nothing to be ashamed of and is in fact a great way to meet an amazing person. Below is a list of 10 reasons you should truly give online dating a try and why it’s nothing to be ashamed of.
1. You get to look at “resumes” of 100’s of potential suiters!
Though yes people are not always 100% honest in their online profile, that can sometimes be no different than meeting someone in person. The great thing about viewing all these potential candidates is you get to know their likes and dislikes typically right away and can know if you have anything in common rather than just catching each others eye based on appearances.
2. You have a chance to talk and get to know each other before committing to spending time together
This is something that is a huge deal to me. I liked the idea of being able to get to know someone before actually meeting face-to-face. I spent weeks talking to my now boyfriend before agreeing to meet. I struggle with “i’m too nice to tell you I don’t like you” in person and it just makes things really awkward for everyone involved so having the opportunity to know if you’re intellectually and emotionally a match before meeting is great.
3. EVERYONE DOES IT
There truly is no reason to be ashamed of online dating or denying it because literally every single person is on or has been on online dating sites/apps. As a matter of fact, over 35% of US relationships now start from online dating!
4. It really can lead to marriage
Ask a couple people and you’re guaranteed to hear of stories about people they know who met online and are now happily married. I know numerous couples who met online and I’m so glad they did because they often end up being a great match!
5. It’s efficient
You can literally sit on your couch for an hour at home scanning these apps and come across endless amounts of singles. There’s no way you’d have that opportunity out on a night on the town or even through your friend network.
6. Easier to find someone looking for something serious (if done right)
I know what you’re thinking… “find someone looking for something serious on Tinder? yea right..” What I found is the more you paid for a dating app the more likely you’d be to find someone who is taking it seriously.
7. You can multitask
What I mean by this is you can be on multiple dating apps to increase your likelihood of finding love. My boyfriend and I actually matched on tinder as well as match.com. I took it as a sign that maybe I should give this guy a response. Here we are 4 years later with a house and a dog happy as ever.
8. You can be yourself
Something I know a lot of people struggle with in person is being themselves at the fear of rejection. Lets face it, it’s easier to be yourself over an app and get rejected than it is to get rejected in person. Though like I said you need to watch out for the cat-fishers of the online dating world and people do of course lie… but in my experience the majority of the men I met online were WAY more genuine than the men I met while out with my girlfriends.
9. Easier to escape an awkward conversation
We’ve all been there… approached by someone in public who “thinks you’re really cute” or comes up to you with a cheesy pick-up line. Next thing you know you end up with a stage 5 clinger lurking around you all night. No need to worry about that with online dating! Someone creep you out or get inappropriate? Block them and move onto the next!
10. You can easily do detective work before meeting
Admit it, we all do it… You find out their name and you immediately search on social media and creep them. Sometimes the search goes great and you see you have friends in common or maybe both love the same sushi joint. Or maybe not and you see them with their arm around the same girl picture after picture… but hey better to find out the jerk has a girlfriend before meeting than after!
If you’re looking for a sign or encouragement to get back into the online dating world take this as it! You ARE NOT desperate for doing so and there is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of. Whether you don’t have the time to get out to meet new people or maybe you’re simply just a bit introverted and struggle approaching someone. It really doesn’t matter your reason and frankly it’s no ones business, you do you and go find your person!